One of the hardest things during this pandemic — for kids and adult children — has been staying away from their parents and grandparents.

People 65 years and older are at higher risk for getting a severe case of COVID-19,

so it’s been especially important for older people to practice social distancing — even from family members — to reduce the risk of infection.

Our communities are reopening and with many families living miles apart, a trip to see parents and grandparents is tempting. Here are some things to consider before you go.


If you want to see your grandkids, talk to your kids about it.

If your family decides to go ahead with a visit, it can be helpful to talk about the rules of engagement. Here are some things you can discuss ahead of time to set expectations and make your visit less stressful:

  • Visit outside if you’re able to or go for a walk
  • If indoors, connect in a well-ventilated area
  • Agree not to hug the kids – even though you want to
  • You can all agree to wear masks and stay 6 feet apart
  • Everyone can agree to wash their hands before, during and after the visit
  • Everyone can commit to reducing the number of people they come in contact with, particularly 14 days before the planned visit


As a grandparent, it may feel lonely without your grandkids around. But try to consider the very difficult position your adult kids are in – having to make the important decision of whether to visit you or not to visit you – even though they know you may be disappointed. Your grown children are trying their best to weigh the pros and cons and figure out if there is a safe way to visit.


If you have serious medical conditions, reconsider a visit with the grandkids.